Two weeks

I had my 2-week postpartum check up today. It was pretty uneventful. During my c-section, the doctor said it appeared that I’d had a placental abruption. My peri said today that the placenta pathology didn’t confirm it, so if I did have an abruption, it was very recent. Basically, we’ll never know if that’s really what it was or if it was just preterm labor for any number of possible reasons. Because of that, I’ll be on progesterone starting sometime during the second trimester of my next pregnancy.

The doctor who did this c-section also mentioned that my uterus looked thin, and my peri said it was down around my old incision, which is exactly why I was supposed to have a scheduled c-section without going into labor. She said that because of this, she’d like to see two years between pregnancies. I immediately started bargaining, and she agreed that two years between deliveries would be sufficient. I have no idea when we’ll feel ready for another one, but I can live with two years between deliveries. I think.

Things with Ian have been uneventful, thankfully. He’s still not eating, but that’s okay. I’m dying for him to get home, but I know we need to wait. I really hope it’s soon.

I’ve gotten a few lectures over the past few days about not being in the NICU 24 hours a day (I even asked my doctor this morning if Ian’s doctor had called her because they both used the same speech). It’s not even like I am spending a ton of time there. I go in the morning for his feed, come home after that’s finished and I’ve pumped, and then head back by his feed in the early evening. I think I’m probably there more than most parents, but I’m not working and we live really close to the hospital, but I don’t think I’m there THAT much. My doctor assured me that she tells the same thing to every NICU mom she sees and that nobody called her, but I still feel like they’re all looking at me like I’m spending too much time there and not taking care of myself. I swear that I’m fine, though. I could use more sleep, but I have to get up to pump during the night, so that’s not going to happen for a long time.

5 thoughts on “Two weeks

  1. I have no doubt that you are taking care of yourself and of your sweet precious little guy.

    I named you for a blog award 🙂 If you have time, it’s all in my blog. xoxo

  2. I think twice a day isnt bad! Our nurses and doctors gave us the speech when we first started our NICU journey. They see a lot of people fall apart and burn out and they just want to make sure NICU parents are the best they can be. I used to drive down for the 9am and 10am care times, then I would pump, then have lunch, drive home (45m), wait for Peter to get home from work, then drive back, have dinner, do their care times, then come home. When it got closer to discharge time, I was there a lot more because we were nursing at each feed to get them used to the breast moreso than the bottle. During the “off” hour, I would pump, eat, and rest. But those 2 weeks were tough. Well worth it. But I can see why the advise parents to go home, go to the gym, make meals and sleep at home.

  3. I found that I couldn’t stay away, it was much more stressful to be away from E. I wasn’t resting or being productive. I just needed to be with my girl. We would get to the nicu around 10:30 or 11 and stay until about 7 every day. Perhaps it was too much but I needed to be close. We did go out and eat or sit out in the garden and of course take pumping breaks. Follow your gut if you feellike you need to be there go for it. Glad to hear you are healing well and Ian is growing.

  4. M, I’m shocked that your doctors are telling you that. Our neos, nurses and my OBs always praised me for the amount of time I spent in the NICU. Toward the end, I was there 10-14 hours a day. I basically left to eat and sleep. Oh, and to pee/poop. 🙂

    I was talking with one of our nurses on Discharge Day, and she said it was really refreshing to have parents (DH was there every night for a few hours and on the weekends as much as he could) who spent so much time at their babies’ bedsides. She said it isn’t a bunch of hooey that babies *do* know when their mommies and daddies are there – she said she sees greater health and success in babies who have uber-involved parents.

    On top of that, Rob and I only had the “normal” leaving-the-NICU jitters last night when we were discharged. We’ve been there so much that caring for our trio is completely natural and not at all awkward. We know the warning signs of the girls when they choke and possibly brady. We KNOW our preemies.

    Spending time in the NICU is important. Spending time with your baby is important. There is nothing different about the amount of time you spend with them in the NICU from the amount of time any parent of a newborn would spend with their term children.

    Please don’t listen to your doctors on this. Take care of yourself, that’s for sure, but go with your gut and spend as much time as you feel necessary in the NICU. Ian will love it, and that’s all that matters.

  5. Too much time there???? My baby was born 5 weeks early and spent 7 days in the NICU and I never left. Never. I slept in his little bitty room, I ate there, I showered there, I had my husband go home and get stuff for me etc. etc. There was no way I was getting into my car and pulling out of the parking lot without my baby. Nobody ever told me I should! I can’t believe people would tell you to spend less time! The best thing for Ian is kangaroo care and for him to hear your voice and feel your touch.

    I think you’ve said before you can’t spend the night there but I think you should go there as often as you want to! Good luck to you all!

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